filial piety? what shit is that?

kinship is really important. have been wondering.. especially now.. in the years to come, how will i treat my parents? i am not those ungrateful bunch of idiots who will dump their parents in homes. However, when i knew that my aunty (uncle's wife) is collecting little money from my grandma.. even when she wants to buy colgate and shampoo, it makes me really feel bad. Its really damn contradicting when adults always tell u to be fillial and take care of elderlies when u grow up and end up doing differently... but its not that they aren't fillial... but the concept of it is not the same as mine. haiz.. sadly.. whats the pt? if in the end, the old is lonely, sad and never happy especially when u have illnesses bonded to you... i really pity my grandma.. pity myself for not being fillial enough.. is a shelter enough? or is the emotional shelter thats more important? ponder ponder...